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Labels-Ταμπέλες

Published 15 May 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

More and more I watch people around me labeling other people as something. Most of the times, labels aren’t based on personality characteristics, or at least the relationship between people involved, but merely on appearances. To tell you the truth, I think that labels are wrong anyway, no matter where they are based. Who am I to put a label on someone, as if they are things, products? Why this rush to gain more people, to hold them near and not let them meet others, ensure that our opinion is heard and followed?

To make things even clearer, let me introduced myself in a deeper way. I was born, raised and am currently living in Greece. My parents are both doctors and I have studied philology. I have been working since I was 18, mostly teaching, but I have also tried other things, like waiting tables, working in a tourist office, being secretary in a technical company, being a V.I.P driver during the 2004 Olympic Games. I speak three foreign languages and two Ancient ones (Ancient Greek and Latin). I have a MA in pedagogic, specialised on how to introduce computer technology in schools for creating, organizing and and managing projects. I was a very dedicated Christian until the age of 27 and a not so dedicated one until the age of 32. Between 25 to 32 I was a very dedicated Goth as well. I mean, I am still a Goth, but I don’t dress up like that anymore…due to work. So, first shocking thing; A Christian Goth? Who smiles a lot and laughs her guts out in a very loudly way? Not wanting to be transformed into a vampire or something? No drugs? And showering every day? (Yep, these are all things I have heard!). Then I discovered Wicca and enrolled in a Witchcraft College (although I hate Harry Potter!) and also started studying alternative healing techniques. I believe in many Gods and Goddesses now, but I still love Jesus and Mary! I am a neo-pagan, eclectic, but not Wiccan in the narrow meaning of the term, although I embrace many of its principles. Oh! And very recently I have made one of my biggest dreams come true, by becoming a Yoga teacher! I have friends who are Christians, pagans, atheists. I have straight friends, gay friends and bi friends! I am a woman who can act like a man if needed, but I like it when my man protects me. I like acting like a damsel in distress from time to time (PMS, you see), although I am a fighter! I dumped ballet after one year, but I went on with martial arts for almost 8 years. I am a geek, but I have never studied for too many hours. I have an O.C.D. and I like to make people laugh, although I can be very serious when I want. I hate wars, but I embrace the Roman opinion, that in order to have peace, one must prepare for war. I try to not kill even mosquitoes, but I believe that people who make animals suffer should be killed, although I would never kill anyone. I like Goth music but I also dance tsifteteli and I have a bad voice, which cannot make me stop singing, even karaokeing.

Ok, now go on and label me…You will find it difficult, except if you take the easy road and characterize me as crazy all-together. That, I won’t deny…I am a bit crazy and I think it’s wonderful! Wait, what? If I accept that I am crazy, how can I be crazy? Crazy people don’t know they are crazy! See where this is all going?

When you label someone, you base a whole critic, for a human being who has the right to be (and most probably is) many things, on one factor that you see and you probably don’t like. But this is your problem. I mean, literally, remember what we have said about the shadow-self? The things we don’t accept on others have something to do we things we see in ourselves…By labeling someone, you miss the chance of getting to know them and it is always good and fun to know new people! It is more fun to know them for who they really are…Labeling may make others feel bad, which will make others feel bad as well…Because emotions have a tendency to be contagious. Why making others, or ourselves, suffocating by being specific things, instead of breathing fresh air and be whoever we want to be, unfolding all of our talents and qualities for the best? Why don’t we take a step today towards not criticizing, the step towards being the magnificent, creative and happy beings we all deserve to be?

In Love and Light always,

E.I.

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Όλο και περισσότερο βλέπω τους ανθρώπους γύρω μου να βάζουν ταμπέλες σε άλλους ανθρώπους ως προς κάτι κάτι. Τις περισσότερες φορές οι ετικέτες δεν βασίζονται σε χαρακτηριστικά προσωπικότητας ή τουλάχιστον στη σχέση μεταξύ των εμπλεκομένων, αλλά μόνο στις εμφανίσεις. Για να σας πω την αλήθεια, νομίζω ότι οι ετικέτες είναι λάθος ούτως ή άλλως, ανεξάρτητα από το πού βασίζονται. Ποιος είμαι εγώ για να βάλω μια ετικέτα σε κάποιον, σαν να είναι πράγματα, προϊόντα; Γιατί αυτή η βιασύνη για να κερδίσουμε περισσότερους ανθρώπους, να τους κρατήσουμε κοντά μας και να μην τους αφήσουμε να συναντήσουν άλλους, εξασφαλίζοντας ότι η γνώμη μας ακούγεται και ακολουθείται;

Για να καταστήσω τα πράγματα ακόμα πιο ξεκάθαρα, επιτρέψτε μου να παρουσιάσω τον εαυτό μου βαθύτερα. Γεννήθηκα, μεγάλωσα και ζω μέχρι σήμερα στην Ελλάδα. Οι γονείς μου είναι και οι δύο γιατροί και έχω σπουδάσει φιλολογία. Εργάζομαι από την ηλικία των 18 ετών, κυρίως στη διδασκαλία, αλλά έχω δοκιμάσει και άλλα πράγματα, όπως σερβιτόρα, σε τουριστικό γραφείο, γραμματέας σε μια τεχνική εταιρεία, οδηγός V.I.P κατά τους Ολυμπιακούς Αγώνες του 2004. Μιλώ τρεις ξένες γλώσσες και δύο Αρχαίες (αρχαία ελληνικά και λατινικά). Έχω MA στα παιδαγωγικά, με εξειδίκευση στο πώς να εισαγω την τεχνολογία των ηλεκτρονικών υπολογιστών στα σχολεία για τη δημιουργία, την οργάνωση και τη διαχείριση projects. Ήμουν πολύ αφοσιωμένη χριστιανή μέχρι την ηλικία των 27 ετών και όχι τόσο αφοσιωμένη μέχρι την ηλικία των 32 ετών. Μεταξύ 25 και 32 ήμουν επίσης πολύ αφοσιωμένη Γκοθού. Θέλω να πω, είμαι ακόμα Γκοθού, αλλά δεν ντύνομαι έτσι…λόγω εργασίας. Έτσι έχουμε το πρώτο συγκλονιστικό θέμα! Μία χριστιανή Goth; Που χαμογελάει πολύ και γελάει πάντα πολύ δνατά; Που δε θέλει να μετατραπεί σε βαμπίρ ή κάτι τέτοιο; Οχι ναρκωτικά? Και ντους κάθε μέρα; (Ναι, αυτά είναι όλα όσα έχω ακούσει!). Τότε ανακάλυψα την Wicca και γράφτηκα σε ένα κολλέγιο μαγείας (αν και μισώ τον Χάρι Πότερ!) Και επίσης άρχισα να μελετώ εναλλακτικές τεχνικές θεραπείας. Πιστεύω τώρα σε πολλούς θεούς και θεές, αλλά αγαπώ ακόμα τον Ιησού και τη Μαρία! Είμαι νεο-παγανίστρια, εκλεκτική, αλλά όχι Wiccan με τη στενή έννοια του όρου, αν και ααπάζομαι πολλές από τις αρχές της. Ω! Και πολύ πρόσφατα έκανα ένα από τα μεγαλύτερα όνειρά μου να γίνει πραγματικότητα, με το να γίνω δασκάλα Γιόγκα! Έχω φίλους που είναι Χριστιανοί, παγανιστές, άθεοι. Έχω straight φίλους, gay φίλους και bi φίλους! Είμαι γυναίκα που μπορεί να ενεργήσει σαν άντρας αν χρειαστεί, αλλά μου αρέσει όταν ο άνδρας μου με προστατεύει. Μου αρέσει να ενεργώ σαν μια κοπέλα σε κίνδυνο από καιρό σε καιρό (Π.Ε.Σ., βλέπετε), αν και είμαι μαχητής! Άφησα το μπαλέτο μετά από ένα χρόνο, αλλά συνέχισα με πολεμικές τέχνες για σχεδόν 8 χρόνια. Είμαι geek, αλλά δεν έχω διαβάσει ποτέ για πάρα πολλές ώρες. Έχω O.C.D. και μου αρέσει να κάνω τους ανθρώπους να γελούν, αν και μπορώ να είμαι πολύ σοβαρή όταν θέλω. Μισώ τους πολέμους, αλλά ασπάζομαι τη ρωμαϊκή άποψη, ότι για να υπάρξει ειρήνη, πρέπει να προετοιμάζεσαι για πόλεμο. Προσπαθώ να μην σκοτώνω ούτε καν τα κουνούπια, αλλά πιστεύω ότι οι άνθρωποι που κάνουν τα ζώα να υποφέρουν θα πρέπει να πεθαίνουν, αν και ποτέ δεν θα σκότωνα κανέναν. Μου αρέσει η μουσική oth, αλλά επίσης χορεύω τσιφτετέλι και έχω κακή φωνή, κάτι το οποίο δεν μπορεί να με κάνει να σταματήσω να τραγουδάω, ακόμα και καραόκε.

Εντάξει, συνεχίστε και βάλτε μου μια ετικέτα…Θα δυσκολευτείτε, εκτός αν πάρετε τον εύκολο δρόμο και με χαρακτηρίσετε ως τρελή κατευθείαν. Αυτό δε θα αρνηθώ…Είμαι λίγο τρελή και νομίζω ότι είναι υπέροχο! ΟΠΑ, τι; Αν δέχομαι ότι είμαι τρελή, πώς μπορώ να είμαι τρελή; Οι τρελοί άνθρωποι δεν ξέρουν ότι είναι τρελοί! Βλέπετε πού πηγαίνει αυτό;

Όταν βάζετε ταμπέλα σε κάποιον, βασίζετε μια ολόκληρη κριτική για έναν άνθρωπο που έχει το δικαίωμα να είναι (και κατά πάσα πιθανότητα είναι) πολλά πράγματα, σε έναν παράγοντα που βλέπετε και πιθανότατα δεν σας αρέσει. Αλλά αυτό είναι το πρόβλημά σας. Εννοώ, κυριολεκτικά, θυμάστε τι έχουμε πει για τον σκιώδη εαυτό; Τα πράγματα που δεν δεχόμαστε στους άλλους έχουν σε κάτι να κάνουν με τα πράγματα που βλέπουμε στον εαυτό μας…Με το να βάζετε ταμπέλα σε κάποιον, χάνετε την ευκαιρία να τον γνωρίσετε…και είναι πάντα καλό και διασκεδαστικό να γνωρίζετε νέους ανθρώπους! Είναι πιο διασκεδαστικό να τους γνωρίζετε για το ποιοι είναι πραγματικά…Η ταμπέλα μπορεί να κάνει τους άλλους να αισθάνονται άσχημα, γεγονός που θα κάνει κι άλλους να αισθάνονται επίσης άσχημα…Επειδή τα συναισθήματα έχουν την τάση να είναι μεταδοτικά. Γιατί να κάνουμε τους άλλους ή τον εαυτό μας να ασφυκτιούν με  το να είναι συγκεκριμένα πράγματα, αντί να αναπνεύσουμε καθαρό αέρα και να είμαστε όποιοι θέλουμε να είμαστε, ξεδιπλώνοντας όλα τα ταλέντα και τις ποιότητές μας για το καλύτερο; Γιατί δεν κάνουμε σήμερα ένα βήμα προς το να μην κριτικάρουμε, το βήμα προς το να είμαστε τα μαγευτικά, δημιουργικά και χαρούμενα όντα που όλοι αξίζουμε να είμαστε;

Με Αγάπη και Φως πάντα,

Ε.Ι.

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Times of Stillness-Στιγμές Ακινησίας

Published 8 May 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

I was thinking the other day that it has been long since I last wrote an article and I started feeling bad…I started thinking about what to write, something interesting that would affect many…But I couldn’t find anything. I thought about re-posting someone else’s post, but I didn’t like that idea either. When I started blogging I did it for the sake of writing my own articles, share my points of view, share myself…

But what if less people would like my blog then? What if I am not able to write for days, just how it happened these past couple of weeks? What should I do? I would normally press myself to write something about something, anything at all…But I didn’t have any inspiration, no ideas, just running from one chore to some job and from there to an errand…And there were also happy moments, birthdays and name-days, visiting friends…There are those phases in our lives when everything seems to go too fast, everything seems to let you behind, even time itself.

I remembered what I have so many times read in my magickal studies; there are times you just need to rest. There are times when magick won’t work, there will be no sparks…These are the times to turn within and find the stillness there. Sometimes, the only way to get in the flow is to let go and stay still, listen to the voice within and finally find peace…And I will always prefer to write when I really have something to share than writing whenever whatever…

Thank you all for being here…You are the most important factor of this blog.

In Love and Peace always,

E.I.

Σκέφτηκα πριν λίγο καιρό ότι είχε περάσει πολύς χρόνος από τότε που έγραψα ένα άρθρο τελευταία φορά και άρχισα να νιώθω άσχημα…Άρχισα να σκέφτομαι τι να γράψω, κάτι ενδιαφέρον που θα επηρέαζε πολλούς… Αλλά δε βρήκα τίποτα. Σκέφτηκα να αναδημοσιεύσω τη δημοσίευση κάποιου άλλου, αλλά ούτε και αυτή η ιδέα μου άρεσε. Όταν ξεκίνησα το blogging το έκανα για για τη χαρά του να γράφω τα δικά μου άρθρα,  να μοιραστώ τις απόψεις μου, να μοιραστώ τον εαυτό μου…

Αλλά τι γίνεται αν λιγότεροι άνθρωποι ακολουθούσαν το blog μου; Τι γίνεται αν δεν είμαι σε θέση να γράψω για μέρες, ακριβώς όπως συνέβη αυτά τα τελευταία δύο εβδομάδες; Τι θα έπρεπε να κάνω; Κανονικά θα πίεζα τον εαυτό μου να γράφω κάτι για κάτι, ο,τιδήποτε …Αλλά δεν είχα έμπνευση, ούτε ιδέες, απλώς έτρεχα από μια δουλειά σε μια άλλη δουλειά και από εκεί σε μια τρίτη… Και υπήρχαν επίσης ευτυχισμένες στιγμές, γενέθλια και ονομαστικές γιορτές, επισκέψεις σε φίλους… Υπάρχουν αυτές οι φάσεις στη ζωή μας όταν όλα φαίνονται πολύ γρήγορα, όλα φαίνεται να μας αφήνουν πίσω, ακόμα και ο χρόνος ο ίδιος.

Θυμήθηκα αυτό που έχω διαβάσει τόσες φορές στις σπουδές μου. Υπάρχουν φάσεις που απλώς πρέπει να ξεκουρασθούμε. Υπάρχουν στιγμές που η μαγεία δε θα λειτουργήσει, δε θα υπάρχουν σπινθήρες… Αυτές είναι οι φάσεις για να στραφεί κάποιος μέσα του και να βρει την ακινησία εκεί. Μερικές φορές, ο μόνος τρόπος να βρεθείς στη ροή είναι να αφεθείς να μείνεις ακίνητος, να ακούσεις τη φωνή μέσα και τελικά να βρεις ειρήνη…Και θα προτιμώ πάντα να γράφω όταν έχω πραγματικά κάτι να μοιραστώ από το να γράφω όποτε ο,τιδήποτε.

Σας ευχαριστώ όλους που είστε εδώ … Είστε ο πιο σημαντικός παράγοντας αυτού του ιστολογίου.

Με Αγάπη και Φως πάντα,

Ε.Ι.

What’s in a Number? -Τι σημαίνει ένας αριθμός;

Published 26 April 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

 

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Today I am in a philosophical mood…It may be because it is my birthday, maybe because it is Spring, anyway…I am and I take it as it comes. This day marks that 40 years have already passed since I first saw the light of the day for this lifetime…40 years…Phewww! It sounds much, it has a grandeur, a sense of maturity and respect! I remember back when I was younger how I looked at people at their 40s. Their age was significant of all the things I have mentioned before…They also looked older. Wait, what? how is this possible? Age is a number and numbers are objective measures that help us go through with our lives…I think I will exercise my right to have a different opinion…

It isn’t how I feel…I don’t “feel” younger, I am not “young at heart” although in an old body…It is everything. The way I look, the things I like doing and the things I do, the way I perceive the world, the way I think, isn’t the way you would expect at 40, based on what is expected by society and the way we have learnt to spend our lives in it. I have a better body than the one I had in 25, as it doesn’t change all the time. I have wrinkles only from laughter and the big one on the forehead from the many times I look at the Sun. I know how to eat and not be eaten (the second also metaphorically), I know what I want and what I don’t, I know my limits and how to go beyond them, I exercise every day because I like it and not because men like it. I still play RPGs, I teach, I do therapies, I teach yoga. I am taught something new every day. I don’t have children of my own -because I have chosen not to- but I have helped in the growing of more than 1000 children the last 22 years. I am still happy, an optimist and a fighter. I am rebellious with a reason (and maybe more). I have left people I didn’t need, and to whom I couldn’t offer anything more, behind and I am surrounded by the people I want into my life!

I consciously love and I have consciously forgiven…I am holding no grudges…And I have no problem telling my age! The surprise expression on others’ faces is precious… 😀

So…What’s in a number? Nothing more or less than the meaning we want to give it. Time, especially is such a relevant thing…If it weren’t, it would be the same everywhere…But it isn’t! 40 means that I have lived happily to see 160 seasons changings. I have blown out more than 820 candles (there hasn’t always been only one cake). I have become friends with many many interesting people. I have loved and have been loved…A lot!

Do you really wonder how far away is a star when you look at the sky and think that it has most probably “died” a long time ago? Do you see your parents or your children according to their age? Does your partner in life age and so you like them less? Is your house big or small because you think of it by measures?

Am I more mature? Of course I am! And I have maturely chosen to never lose my childish characteristics! They get along pretty well with my mature ones!

On this day, I am wishing each and every one of you to have everything you wish for in your life and may all your dreams come true in the best of ways!

In Love and Light always,

E.I.

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Σήμερα έχω φιλοσοφική διάθεση…Μπορεί να είναι επειδή είναι τα γενέθλιά μου, ίσως επειδή είναι Άνοιξη, ούτως ή άλλως…Την έχω και το παίρνω όπως έρχεται. Αυτή η μέρα σηματοδοτεί ότι έχουν περάσει 40 χρόνια από τότε που πρωτοείδα το φως της ημέρας για αυτή τη ζωή…40 χρόνια…Phewww! Ακούγεται πολύ, έχει μεγαλοπρέπεια, αίσθηση ωριμότητας και αποπνέει σεβασμό! Θυμάμαι πίσω όταν ήμουν νεότερη πώς κοίταζα τους ανθρώπους στα 40 τους. Η ηλικία τους σήμαινε όλα τα πράγματα που ανέφερα πριν…Φαίνονταν επίσης μεγαλύτερης ηλικίας. Μισό λεπτό, τι; Πώς είναι αυτό δυνατόν; Η ηλικία είναι ένας αριθμός και οι αριθμοί είναι αντικειμενικά μέτρα που μας βοηθούν να ζούμε με τη ζωή μας…Νομίζω ότι θα ασκήσω το δικαίωμά μου να έχω διαφορετική άποψη…

Δεν είναι το πώς αισθάνομαι … Δεν αισθάνομαι νεώτερη, δεν είμαι “νεαρή στην καρδιά” αν και σε ένα παλιό σώμα…Είναι τα πάντα. Ο τρόπος που δείχνω, τα πράγματα που μου αρέσει να κάνω και τα πράγματα που κάνω, ο τρόπος που αντιλαμβάνομαι τον κόσμο, ο τρόπος που σκέφτομαι, δεν είναι ο τρόπος που θα περίμενε κανείς στα 40, με βάση αυτό που αναμένεται από την κοινωνία και τον τρόπο που έχουμε μάθει να περνάμε τη ζωή μας μέσα σε αυτήν. Έχω καλύτερο σώμα από αυτό που είχα στις 25, καθώς δεν αλλάζει συνέχεια. Έχω ρυτίδες μόνο από το γέλιο και μια μεγάλη στο μέτωπο από τις πολλές φορές κοιτάζω τον Ήλιο (και του κλείνω το μάτι). Ξέρω πώς να τρώω και να μην τρώγομαι (το δεύτερο επίσης και μεταφορικά), ξέρω τι θέλω και τι όχι, ξέρω τα όριά μου και πώς να τα ξεπερνάω, ασκούμαι κάθε μέρα επειδή μου αρέσει και όχι επειδή αρέσει στους άνδρες. Παίζω ακόμα RPG, διδάσκω, κάνω θεραπείες, διδάσκω γιόγκα. Μαθαίνω κάτι νέο κάθε μέρα. Δεν έχω δικά μου παιδιά – από επιλογή – αλλά βοήθησα να μεγαλώσουν περισσότερα από 1000 παιδιά τα τελευταία 22 χρόνια. Είμαι ακόμα χαρούμενη, αισιόδοξη και μαχητής. Είμαι επαναστάτρια με αιτία. Έχω αφήσει ανθρώπους που δε χρειάζομαι, και στους οποίους δεν μπορούσα να προσφέρω τίποτα περισσότερο , πίσω και είμαι περιτριγυρισμένη από τους ανθρώπους που θέλω στη ζωή μου!

Αγαπώ συνειδητά και έχω συνειδητά συγχωρήσει … δεν κρατώ κακίες … Και δεν έχω κανένα πρόβλημα να πω την ηλικία μου! Η έκφραση έκπληξη στα πρόσωπα των άλλων είναι πολύτιμη …: D

Λοιπόν…Τι υπάρχει σε έναν αριθμό; Τίποτα περισσότερο ή λιγότερο από το νόημα που θέλουμε να του δώσουμε. Ο χρόνος, ειδικά είναι κάτι τόσο σχετικό… Αν δεν ήταν, θα ήταν ο ίδιος παντού…Αλλά δεν είναι! Το 40 σημαίνει ότι έχω ζήσει επιτυχώς για να δω 160 αλλαγές σεζόν. Έχω σβήσει πάνω από 820 κεριά (δεν υπήρχε πάντα μόνο μία τούρτα). Έχω γίνει φίλη με πολλούς πολλούς ενδιαφέροντες ανθρώπους. Έχω αγαπήσει και έχω αγαπηθεί…Πολύ!

Μήπως αναρωτιέστε πόσο μακριά είναι ένα αστέρι κάθε φορά που κοιτάζετε τον ουρανό και σκέφτεστε ότι κατά πάσα πιθανότητα «πέθανε» πριν πάρα πολύ καιρό; Βλέπετε τους γονείς σας ή τα παιδιά σας ανάλογα με την ηλικία τους; Ο σύντροφός σας μεγαλώνει και γι’ αυτό σας αρέσει λιγότερο; Είναι το σπίτι σας μεγάλο ή μικρό επειδή το σκέφτεστε βάσει τετραγωνικών;

Είμαι πιο ώριμη; Και βέβαια είμαι! Και έχω επιλέξει ώριμα να μην χάσω τα παιδικά μου χαρακτηριστικά! Γίνονται αρκετά καλά με τους ώριμους μου!

Την ημέρα αυτή, επιθυμώ ο καθένας σας να έχει ό, τι επιθυμεί στη ζωή του και όλα τα όνειρά σας να γίνονται πραγματικότητα με τον καλύτερο τρόπο!

Με Αγάπη και Φως πάντα,

Ε.Ι.

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Happiness!!! (sharing from an essay I wrote on one of the lessons I study)

Published 9 March 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

Happiness! So many things have been said and written about happiness. Everyone is looking for it, everyone is chasing it…Happiness can be lost, found, there are keys to it, doors to it and some other doors that are opened thanks to happiness…The old people say that the older days were happier, although there were wars and famine and poverty and death. Many people tend to hide in the happiness of the past and don’t even believe that they can also be happy right now, in the present! Happiness is a granted for children and most adults think that they cannot be happy. Again, this is a matter of mindset and perspective. Happiness is such a big discussion subject, because people have forgotten how simple it is to be happy.

First of all, happiness is different to joy. Joy is the happy feeling we get every time something good happens and it stays with us for as long as the trigger exists. Happiness is forever. Once known, it can never go away, except if we let it or we forget that we know what it really is.

Happiness is that state of mind that is simple to achieve. Being present at the moment and pay attention to everything good that happens in our lives is a way to achieve happiness. Gratitude for even the smallest things goes hand in hand with happiness. Taking the time to admire a little, fragile flower coming out of concrete, pay attention to the tunes of the birds announcing that spring is close by, look at the clouds and the shapes they make, in other words, look at the world like we used to do when we were little; in awe and surprise and as if we see something for the first time, taking nothing for granted. Children always smile heartily when they see someone they love, always express their feelings, their enthusiasm, without minding if they talk or laugh too loudly or too much (as if there is such a thing as “laughing too much”!). To them, the matters that are in their minds at the specific moment, their feelings of the time are the most important of all. Children are mindful all the time, thus they are happy. They appreciate everything; their parents, their friends, their pets. They speak to the animals and the plants, they speak to themselves, they perceive things we don’t. I read somewhere that until the age of 5, children’s brain works mostly on Theta waves…Children meditate constantly! They are in deep touch with what is going on within them. Even with no toys, they can play. Even without knowing a language, they can communicate! No boundaries apply to their thoughts and imagination, because they don’t think of boundaries. This is why there are no boundaries to their happiness! So, simple as that, we should start thinking like children again, find our inner child and listen to them when they want an ice-cream, no matter how many calories it will have, or dance in the middle of the street for no reason at all, or for every reason in the world.

Children are so close to happiness, so much in touch with it, because they learn and they mostly learn by experiencing. When we grow up we stop experiencing, we stop appreciating the sense of risk and playing and getting out of the box…We set times and schedules and ages. “You are old at 50”, “Sex is not important for a relationship, only love is” (of course love is the most important thing in a relationship, and let’s not talk about respect, freedom, appreciation, pride…But isn’t sex important as well?), “Don’t act like a child”, “When will you grow up?”, “When are you going to become a mother?” (this last one is one of my favourites!). Human beings are body, mind, spirit, soul…all together in a wonderful, unique bunch! Ignoring aspects of ourselves mutilates us, makes us lacking people. Societies are good and, I believe, no human could live alone or should live alone…But we have set so many rules that go beyond our humanity. We must be careful all the time, about how we eat, how we speak, how we laugh, how we flirt…There are rules about everything and anything…and nothing at all! What these rules teach us is that we have to be in a certain way in order to be liked, loved or respected, when the truth is that those who like us and love us better do so for the real us! Our differences make us unique and make life so much more interesting…But we cannot tolerate different, it makes us feel unease, awkward. We have forgotten the myth of the ugly duckling and how happiness is abundant to everyone.

Life has become so rushy, so exhausting, that we do not live anymore. We just run, work, pay bills, sleep, wake up and start again, not only anxious about getting through the day, but also anxious about reaching the goals others have set for us. We don’t stop, we don’t take breaks. We don’t let ourselves daydream, or stargaze, or do stupid and “unnecessary” things. I have heard so many times things like “Even if I had a lot of money, I would continue working, because you never know/people should work, or else…/what would I do if I didn’t work?”. Wait a moment! I would continue doing things I love, and if this was the same to my work, I would continue “working”, although I would do it for free, to help as many as possible. But, it sounds completely stupid not to know what to do if you don’t have to wake up before the sun every day, doing the same things as the day before, rushing all the time, just because you don’t know what else to do…I would read, go out to meet friends, sleep, practice yoga, learn new things, travel around the world, I would adopt more furry friends…People nowadays, forget to breathe. We need social-media posts to remind us that life is not for granted, that we should feel and let the others know it…We need yoga classes to remind us how important breath is. And I like yoga, I am a big fan of it, but it should be our time with ourselves, our moments of truth, our time to get in touch with our bodies and connect our bodies and minds, not the time when we are reminded that we need to breathe and closing our eyes to relax is all right…That all reminds me of one of the times I was in London. I was coming back from my little excursion of the day. In the metro, I was sitting next to a guy whom we were at the museum together with. We started talking and he started talking about how he didn’t understand Greeks and their affection for free time. As a Greek, this was Greek to me. What did he mean? I talked to him about all the things I do during my holidays and he insisted that no holidays are needed. Not that people should have less holidays, but that holidays should not exist because they get you out of schedule. I could only laugh out loud…I didn’t answer to him, there was no need…You can’t convince someone that they need to be happy from time to time. I didn’t even ask why he came to London for the Weekend, but no reason to insult him either. After all, it was a cemetery museum, so it might not have been fun for him, which could excuse his out-time. This story, still makes me laugh and it is one of the things that remind me how happy I am and that I should stay this way, even if only to look at people staring, not understanding…

Attuning to nature and Her rhythms is another way for someone to be happy. Natural rhythms show that the only stable thing in life is change. Once you get to understand that, no burden seems too big or too serious, no problem is uncontrollable anymore. Attuning to Nature’s rhythms, help us connect to our inner rhythms, attune to that sense that all is one and we have choices. We choose how we think, we choose what we decide, we choose our truths, stories, life! We choose. And along with choice there is always responsibility. We are responsible of how we feel and thus, we are responsible to allow and help ourselves feel happy!We choose what we believe and which rules apply to us, and the happier we choose to be, the more reasons we will have to be happy. Happiness goes hand-in-hand with the verb “to be” not “to feel”. One either is happy or not, it’s our choice!

So, happiness is connected to love, compassion, freedom, respect, appreciation, craziness, playfulness, Inner Child. Happiness is something we can share, we can teach…It is actually really important to show to people that they can be happy. Happiness is an emotion that grows by sharing, it becomes stronger and with deeper roots. Happiness is not an ideal, it is our right and we don’t even have to chase it. Happiness is always there, waiting for us to see it and become one with it. Happiness is pink, it feels like little giggles in our belly, like when the airplane takes off…and it is as much liberating! Happiness can help us see the world in new eyes, see ourselves in different colours, because everything is more beautiful when we are happy! If you ask a child why they are happy, they will give you numerous simple answers, because to them, happiness isn’t something unknown. And they do not need much in order to be happy…Some candy or a simple touch will do the miracle.

The other thing that seems really strange to me is the question “How can you be so happy?”. What does “so” want in this sentence? Is there an amount of happiness that is accepted and if you go beyond that, then there is something wrong? People have always been telling me that I am always so happy and looked at me as if there were something wrong with me. And because of their confusion between happiness and joy, they found it crazy when I cried out of sadness, when I wasn’t in the mood for jokes. Their words usually are “This isn’t you”. But this is exactly and precisely me! I am human, I am not a robot set on “joyful mode” forever. I have my moments just like everyone else. And coming from Greece and not Himalaya,I sometimes get carried away by circumstances…But this is me, having good or bad moments. Being happy doesn’t have anything to do with that…Actually, I am grateful and happy for my bad and sad moments as well. They mean that I am still learning, evolving, expanding. They mean that I am present, I am alive, I am able to feel I choose to be happy, every day! And I know why I am happy! I am happy because I grew up in a wonderful family and had a happy childhood. I had a normal adolescence when I used to fight with my mother every day and we can now laugh together about that time. I am happy because I live in a secure house, with the people I love and my cats and dog. I am happy because I have found the man of my life and even at my most difficult periods I had people around me who loved me and cared for me. I am happy because I had the chance to study what I love and I have learnt to never cease learning. I am happy because I have found that Gothic music and magickal studies are not only for the films. I am happy because I have received a lot of love and I am able to give love back, I can feel! I am happy because I already have a niece and there is a nephew on the way, and I have students with whom I still meet and it is always so nice to see that you have become part of someone’s life, especially through an ungraceful role. Of course I have moments that I feel stressed or bitter or sad, maybe…But these moments are like my moments of joy…They go away as soon as the trigger goes away. The reasons I have to be happy are more important and are always there!

Silence

Published 7 March 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

I spent almost three days in silence, for the first time in my life and as well as I could manage. Even in this way, by not talking for long hours, not writing blog-posts, not surfing in the net or the Facebook, I have learnt a great deal. Why silence? I would attend a very important initiation, one I have been expecting for one year and more. I wanted to spend time with my guides and myself, I wanted to be open to messages. Of course, in order to keep silent, one has to close their ears to many things they hear and so did I. I stopped the time for a while, listen to the others, I tried to understand them, why they would say something like that (in the cases I heard something mean or gossipy or inappropriate)  and when I did, there was nothing to say.

Silence helps us listen to our inner voice, our intuition, our self. Silence helps us go deep within, cleanse, understand and thus forgive and stay calm. I am not the calmest person in the world, quite the opposite, I should admit! I am not afraid to recognize and accept my “inferior” or “bad” feelings, simply because I do not divide feelings into categories. I am a human being, of course there are times I get angry, or jealous. The difference is that these words do not define me and I have learnt, all these years that I have been involved with spiritual and energy healing, to see how I can use these feelings for a better result, how to express them without insulting anyone, or make them feel bad. This is why I can understand and accept everyone as they are, because I recognize their humanity. This doesn’t mean that I have to keep them company, but accepting the others as they are, helped me, in essence.

So, I didn’t speak, I did my fasting, some yoga and some meditation. The results were amazing. Especially by not being triggered by people or situations that would make me crazy in the past. People started wondering if I was ok…So, here it is; the better you feel, the more circumstances you will have to laugh, see where you really want to participate, find the silence within.

I now find it easier to concentrate, attract people I really want in my life, I learn faster, my body feels better…From this deep silence of within, this state of inner peace and contentment, I am sending you lots of love and blessings and I thank you for being here with me…

In Love and Light always,

E.I.

picture from Google

 

A Spring Day

Published 28 February 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

Here I am , after a long winter, which wasn’t so cold, but it was winter, nonetheless, with one of my cats on my lap, watching this amazing sunny day from my window! This morning I could even see last night’s raindrops shining on the leaves of the garden plants. Spring has always been my favourite season of the year, but being a pagan, I pay my respects to all seasons for what they are…So, as we moving towards the mid-Spring, I am looking back at what this winter has offered.

Winter, they say, is the season to turn within, find out those secrets hidden in shadowy or even dark corners and see how you can work with them, because come Spring you have to start anew. And I find great resonance in this. This Winter I met people that lied to me, abused me mentally and emotionally, took advantage of the fact that I will harm none and they did it although they knew that there is only one thing that I will not tolerate, and this is lying…oh! The second being taking me for a fool. Could I do something to avenge myself? Sure thing! Could I turn this all back to them? Of course! Being a white witch doesn’t mean that I will let anyone slap me in the face, it means I know how to ask for help in order to get rid of negativity. Did I actually do something? Yep! I talked to them, told them I don’t want them in my life and turned my back, blocking their energy. I did this, first of all because I am a firm believer that before you try magick, you have to try everything else possible first. Secondly, being mean and bitter makes you attract mean and bitter people, so you will end up with those you actually deserve, eating each other’s flesh. Thirdly, I really believe that you attract what you send, so no need for me to sit there, paying any more attention to people as such.

So, what do you do when your life empties (like an old wardrobe) a bit? I do yoga, learn new therapeutic techniques to ameliorate my practice, watch the morning dew with my cats, read interesting books and meet with real friends. Life is too short to sit and focus on negativity. Even if it were longer, why not do something joyful instead?

Spring is here! Out with the old and in with the new!

In love and Light always,

E.I.

2018-A Creative Year

Published 11 January 2018 by Eris Ilmirith

So, I am sitting here, with Mizah, my first cat-child on my lap, thinking how wonderful things can be in life! Not that I haven’t had my fair share of difficulties and challenges and there are still some of them, but I am finally in peace…within!

What I got, really got the tough way, is that before every good change in life, before all development, spiritual or whatever, life comes forth and asks if you are ready…And a simple “yes/no” answer won’t do the job…You have to prove that it is so…That you are really ready to face whatever is to come, with dignity, smile and courage!

So, my goals for this year are really clear! I am going to make more of my two jobs, as a teacher and an energy/alternative/spiritual healer, I am going to learn, learn,learn and finally finish my third degree studies on Wicca and witchcraft! First stop, Swedish -just because I find this language interesting and Italian, because I can’t not learn it since I know Latin…Then, animal telepathy, along with practice on Animal Reiki and Animal Spiritual Healing…Then, I ‘ll see…There are so many things to learn…Thank Goodness!!!

Blessings of Love and Light to everyone!!!

Eris Ilmirith